I recently started blogging about sex and relationships over at CreakyJoints. You can follow the links below to get to the posts over there.
- Welcome to You, Me, Sex, Love, and Arthur!
- Not a Baby: Good deed or are you really infantilizing someone with a disability?
- Sex is a basic human need whether or not you live with chronic illness
- It can be really difficult to give yourself self-love and self-care: 5 steps for beginners
- A Better Life with Chronic Illness: How Kirsten Schultz learned to thank her body
You should also check out Cara’s podcast, In Sickness + In Health. The episode where we sat down to talk #chronicsex is here. Jessica Gimeno and I also recently discussed 5 Tips for Dating with Chronic Illness.
Posts on here about sex and relationships can be found here:
- The first and pretty much most comprehensive post on sex I’ve done
- A rant on the question of babies
- Partners of the chronically ill are often overlooked
- RA and sexual intimacy
- That time I interviewed T
- Why every couple dealing with illness needs to read The Time Traveler’s Wife
Here are also some products and stores that I enjoy or can recommend:
- Almost Naked Organic Personal Lubricant (water-based) from Good Clean Love
- Jaz Motion from the Liberator bedroom adventure gear brand (it’s also great for propping up sore knees!)
- The Tool Shed, based in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, is a feminist sex positive store
- Wonderland White Rabbit vibrator
You can find more information on the resources page.
Below you can keep in touch with the #chronicsex hashtag, which you can use to ask me questions, discuss issues, and more!
Chronic Sex is also about Self-Love and Self-Care. Here are some basics to get you started:
I would recommend these two pages first, as they’re great for beginners:
- A beginner’s guide to self-care and self-love
- Getting started
- How I learned to thank my body (Creaky Joints)
Once you have the basics down, move on to these:
- Allowing yourself to feel emotions
- Confidence
- Dealing with the past
- Focus on you
- It’s okay to give no fucks
- Meditation benefits and getting started
- Music as therapy
- Positive doodles
- Ruminations on strength and integrity
- Saying no and resting
- Setting boundaries
- The danger of toxic people
- The importance of sharing your truth
- Traveling with a chronic illness
- Treat yourself
- When being sick is actually great
- When your dream dies
Love this!!! Thank you for bringing this important subject out in the open.