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• A Framework for Understanding Poverty by Ruby K. Payne
• Oppression: A Social Determinant of Health, edited by Elizabeth McGibbon
• Pedagogy of the Oppressed by Freire Paulo
• Systemic Racism: A Theory of Oppression by Joe R. Feagin
• The Architecture of Oppression: The SS, Forced Labor and the Nazi Monumental Building Economy by Paul B. Jaskot
• The Diaspora of Belonging: Gentrification, Systems of Oppression, and Why Our Cities Are Out of Place by Jay Sharma
• The Intersectional Environmentalist: How to Dismantle Systems of Oppression to Protect People + Planet by Leah Thomas
• The Psychology of Oppression by EJR David and Annie O. Derthick

• Embodied Social Justice by Rae Johnson
• Love and Rage: The Path of Liberation Through Anger by Lama Rod Owens
• Oppression and the Body: Roots, Resistance, and Resolutions by Christine Caldwell and Lucia Bennett Leighton
• Our Time Is Now: Power, Purpose, and the Fight for a Fair America by Stacey Abrams
• Read This to Get Smarter: about Race, Class, Gender, Disability & More by Blair Imani
• The New Human Rights Movement: Reinventing the Economy to End Oppression by Peter Joseph

• Awkward: The Science of Why We're Socially Awkward and Why That's Awesome by Ty Tashiro
• Be Happy Without Being Perfect: How to Break Free from the Perfection Deception by Alice D. Domar and Alice Lesch Kelly
• The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do by Sarah Knight
• The Self-Esteem Workbook by Glenn R. Schiraldi
• Tiny Buddha's 365 Tiny Love Challenges by Lori Deschene
• Tiny Buddha's Guide to Loving Yourself: 40 Ways to Transform Your Inner Critic and Your Life by Lori Deschene

• Healing the Angry Brain: How Understanding the Way Your Brain Works Can Help You Control Anger and Aggression by Ronald Potter-Efron MSW, PhD
• It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devin
• The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Anger: A Step-by-Step Program for Success by William J Knaus EdD and Robert Alberti PhD
• The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate by Harriet Lerner PhD

• Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting, and Enjoying the Self by Charles Whitfield M.D.
• Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin by Anne Katherine, MA
• Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships by Henry Cloud
• Healthy Boundaries: How to Set Strong Boundaries, Say No Without Guilt, and Maintain Good Relationships With Your Parents, Family, and Friends by Chase Hill
• The Better Boundaries Workbook: A CBT-Based Program to Help You Set Limits, Express Your Needs, and Create Healthy Relationships by Sharon Martin MSW LCSW
• Transform Your Boundaries by Sarri Gilman

• A Disability History of the United States by Kim E Nielsen
• A History of Disability by Henri-Jacques Stiker
• Ableism: The Causes and Consequences of Disability Prejudice by Nario-Redmond
• Academic Ableism: Disability and Higher Education by Jay T Dolmage
• After the Diagnosis: Transcending Chronic Illness by Julian and Betsy Seifter
• Ask Me About My Uterus: A Quest to Make Doctors Believe in Women’s Pain by Abby Norman
• Backbone: Living with Chronic Pain without Turning into One by Karen Duffy
• Being Heumann: An Unrepentant Memoir of a Disability Rights Activist by Judy Heumann
• Brilliant Imperfection: Grappling with Cure by Eli Clare
• Crip Theory: Cultural Signs of Queerness and Disability by Robert McRuer
• Crippled Justice: The History of Modern Disability Policy in the Workplace by Ruth O’Brien
• Demystifying Disability: What to Know, What to Say, and How to Be an Ally by Emily Ladau
• Disability Rights 1980 – 2005 The Breakthrough Years by Michel Tessier
• Disability Visibility: First-Person Stories from the Twenty-First Century, edited by Alice Wong
• Disfigured: On Fairy Tales, Disability, and Making Space by Amanda Leduc
• Doing Harm: The Truth About How Bad Medicine and Lazy Science Leave Women Dismissed, Misdiagnosed, and Sick by Maya Dusenbery
• Don’t Call Me Inspirational: A Disabled Feminist Talks Back by Harilyn Rousso
• Enabling Acts: The Hidden Story of How the Americans With Disabilities Act Gave the Largest US Minority Its Rights by Lennard Davis
• Exile and Pride: Disability, Queerness, and Liberation by Eli Clare
• Fantasies of Identification: Disability, Gender, Race by Ellen Samuels
• Gay Men Living with Chronic Illnesses and Disabilities: From Crisis to Crossroads by Benjamin Lipton
• Hot Cripple: An Incurable Smart-ass Takes on the Health Care System and Lives to Tell the Tale by Hogan Gorman
• How to Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and Their Caregivers by Toni Bernhard
• How to Live Well with Chronic Pain and Illness: A Mindful Guide by Toni Bernhard
• How to Wake Up: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Navigating Joy and Sorrow by Toni Bernhard
• How We Do Harm: A Doctor Breaks Ranks About Being Sick in America by Otis Webb Brawley
• Introducing Disability Studies by Ronald J Berger
• Invisible: How young women with serious health issues navigate work, relationships, and the pressure to seem just fine by Michelle Lent Hirsch
• Misdiagnosed: One Woman’s Tour of–And Escape From–Healthcareland by Jody Berger
• Model Patient: My Life as an Incurable Wise-Ass by Karen Duffy
• Mutants: On the Form, Varieties and Errors of the Human Body by Armand Marie Leroi
• No Pity: People with Disabilities Forging a New Civil Rights Movement by Joseph P Shapiro
• No Right to Be Idle: The Invention of Disability, 1840s–1930s by Sarah F Rose
• Pedagogy of the Oppressed by Paulo Freire
• Punishing Disease: HIV and the Criminalization of Sickness by Trevor Hoppe
• Read This to Get Smarter: about Race, Class, Gender, Disability & More by Blair Imani
• Resistance and Hope: Essays by Disabled People, edited by Alice Wong
• Surviving and Thriving with an Invisible Chronic Illness: How to Stay Sane and Live One Step Ahead of Your Symptoms by Ilana Jacqueline
• The Disabled God: Toward a Liberatory Theology of Disability by Nancy L Eiesland
• The Epigenetics Revolution: How Modern Biology is Rewriting Our Understanding of Genetics, Disease, and Inheritance by Nessa Carey
• The Five Gifts of Illness: A Reconsideration by Jill Sklar
• The Healthcare Cure: How Sharing Information Can Make the System Work Better by Jeff Margolis
• The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks by Rebecca Skloot
• The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat and Other Clinical Tales by Oliver Sacks
• The Pain Chronicles: Cures, Myths, Mysteries, Prayers, Diaries, Brain Scans, Healing, and the Science of Suffering by Melanie Thernstrom
• The Social Anxiety Workbook for Work, Public & Social Life: Strategies to Decrease Shyness and Increase Confidence in Any Situation by David Shanley PsyD
• The Ugly Laws: Disability in Public by Susan M Schweik
• When Doctors Don’t Listen: How to Avoid Misdiagnoses and Unnecessary Tests by Leana Wen & Joshua Kosowsky

• A Primer on the Rheumatic Diseases by John H. Klippel, Cornelia M. Weyand, Robert Wortmann, and Arthritis Foundation Staff
• My Brother Made Me Do It by Peg Kehret
• The Cleveland Clinic Guide to Arthritis by John D. Clough
• The Lupus Book: A Guide for Patients and Their Families by Daniel J. Wallace
• Yoga for Arthritis: The Complete Guide by Loren Fishman and Ellen Saltonstall

• How Hard It Really Is: A Short, Honest Book About Depression by J.S. Park
• Inventing the Feeble Mind: A History of Intellectual Disability in the United States by James Trent
• Mad at School: Rhetorics of Mental Disability and Academic Life by Margaret Price
• Mad in America: Bad Science, Bad Medicine, and the Enduring Mistreatment of the Mentally Ill by Robert Whitaker
• NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity by Steve Silberman
• Sickened: The Memoir of a Munchausen by Proxy Childhood by Julie Gregory
• The Autistic Trans Guide to Life by Yenn Perkins and Wenn B. Lawson
• The Book of Woe: The DSM and the Unmaking of Psychiatry by Gary Greenberg
• The Collected Schizophrenias: Essays by Esmé Weijun Wang
• The PTSD Workbook: Simple, Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms by Mary Beth Williams
• The Social Anxiety Workbook for Work, Public & Social Life: Strategies to Decrease Shyness and Increase Confidence in Any Situation by David Shanley PsyD
• Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence-from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman
• Trauma, Stigma, and Autism by Gordon Gates
• Unholy Ghost: Writers on Depression, edited by Nell Casey

• Deaf Culture: Exploring Deaf Communities in the United States by Irene W Leigh
• Deaf Heritage: A Narrative History of Deaf America by Jack R Gannon

• A Quick & Easy Guide to Sex & Disability by A. Andrews
• Connecting With Your Asperger Partner: Negotiating the Maze of Intimacy by Louise Weston
• Irritable Hearts: A PTSD Love Story by Mac McClelland
• Love and Asperger's: Practical Strategies To Help Couples Understand Each Other and Strengthen Their Connection by Kate McNulty LCSW
• Love in the Time of Chronic Illness: How to Fight the Sickness—Not Each Other by Barbara Kivowitz and Rosanne Weisman
• Love, Sex and Long-Term Relationships: What People with Asperger Syndrome Really Really Want by Sarah Hendrickx
• Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger's Syndrome: Successful Strategies for Couples or Counselors by Eva A. Mendes
• Other Half of Asperger Syndrome: A Guide to Living in an Intimate Relationship by Maxine Aston
• Partners in Healing: Simple Ways to Offer Support, Comfort, and Care to a Loved One Facing Illness by William Collinge
• Sex and Disability by Robert McRuer
• Sex-Interrupted: Igniting Intimacy While Living With Illness or Disability by Iris Zink and Jenny Palter
• Sex, Love, and Mental Illness: A Couple's Guide to Staying Connected by Stephanie Buehler
• Sex, Sexuality, and the Autism Spectrum by Wendy Lawson
• The Autism Relationships Workbook: How Thrive in Friendships, Dating, and Relationships by Joe Biel and Faith Harper - also a workbook!
• The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain, and Illness by Miriam Kaufman, Cory Silverberg, and Fran Odette

• Connecting With Your Asperger Partner: Negotiating the Maze of Intimacy by Louise Weston
• Digging Out: Helping Your Loved One Manage Clutter, Hoarding, and Compulsive Acquiring by Michael A. Tompkins
• Love in the Time of Chronic Illness: How to Fight the Sickness—Not Each Other by Barbara Kivowitz and Rosanne Weisman

Queer

• Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen
• Ace & Proud: An Asexual Anthology, edited by A K Andrews
• Excluded: Making Feminist and Queer Movements More Inclusive by Julia Serrano
• Gay Men Living with Chronic Illnesses and Disabilities: From Crisis to Crossroads by Benjamin Lipton
• Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon
• Moving Politics: Emotion and ACT UP’s Fight Against AIDS by Deborah B. Gould
• Queer: A Graphic History by Meg-John Barker
• Punishing Disease: HIV and the Criminalization of Sickness by Trevor Hoppe
• Rewriting the Rules: An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships by Meg-John Barker
• The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker
• The Pink Line: Journeys Across the World's Queer Frontiers by Mark Gevisser

Trans

• A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns by Archie Bongiovanni
• Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon
• Life Isn't Binary: On Being Both, Beyond, and In-Between by Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi
• Non-Binary Lives: An Anthology of Intersecting Identities, edited by Jos Twist, Ben Vincent, Meg-John Barker and Kat Gupta
• On the Evolution of Intimacy: A Brief Exploration into the Past, Present, and Future of Gender and Love by Charles M. Johnston MD
• Seeing Gender: An Illustrated Guide to Identity and Expression by Iris Gottlieb
• The Queer and Transgender Resilience Workbook by Anneliese Singh, PhD, LPC
• They/Them/Their: A Guide to Non-Binary and Genderqueer Identities by Eris Young
• Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community by Laura Erickson-Schroth
• Trans+:  Love, Sex, Romance, & Being You by Kathryn Gonzales & Karen Rayne
• Transgender History, second edition: The Roots of Today’s Revolution by Susan Stryker
• Where's MY Book?: A Guide for Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Youth, Their Parents, & Everyone Else by Linda Gromko MD
• You and Your Gender Identity by Dara Hoffman-Fox, LPC

At The Intersections

• Black on Both Sides: A Racial History of Trans Identity by C. Riley Snorton
• Critically Sovereign: Indigenous Gender, Sexuality, and Feminist Studies by Joanne Barker
• Sovereign Erotics: A Collection of Two-Spirit Literature, edited by Deborah Miranda, Daniel Heath Justice, and Qwo-Li Driskill
• Unspeakable Love: Gay and Lesbian Life in the Middle East by Brian Whitaker

• A Black Women's History of the United States by Daina Ramey Berry  & Kali Nicole Gross
• A Bound Woman Is a Dangerous Thing: The Incarceration of African American Women from Harriet Tubman to Sandra Bland by DaMaris B. Hill
• An African American and Latinx History of the United States by Paul Ortiz
• An Indigenous Peoples' History of the United States by Roxanne Dunbar-Ortiz
• As We Have Always Done: Indigenous Freedom through Radical Resistance by Leanne Betasamosake Simpson
• Black and British: A Forgotten History by David Olusoga
• Black in Latin America by Henry Louis Gates, Jr
• Black Man in a White Coat: A Doctor's Reflections on Race and Medicine by Damon Tweedy
• Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel Wilkerson
• Columbus and Other Cannibals: The Wetiko Disease of Exploitation, Imperialism, and Terrorism by Jack D. Forbes
• Critical Race Theory: The Key Writings That Formed the Movement, edited by Kimberle Crenshaw, Neil Gotanda, Gary Peller, & Kendall Thomas
• Decolonizing Methodologies: Research and Indigenous Peoples by Linda Tuhiwai Smith
• Everything You Know about Indians Is Wrong by Paul Chaat Smith
• From A Whisper To A Rallying Cry: The Killing of Vincent Chin and the Trial that Galvanized the Asian American Movement by Paula Yoo
• Giving Thanks: A Native American Good Morning Message by Chief Jake Swamp
• How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi
• I Am Not Your Negro by James Baldwin
• Inventing Latinos: A New Story of American Racism by Laura E. Gomez
• Killing the Black Body: Race, Reproduction, and the Meaning of Liberty by Dorothy E. Roberts
• LatinAsian Cartographies: History, Writing, and the National Imaginary by Susan Thananopavarn
• Light in the Dark/Luz En Lo Oscuro: Rewriting Identity, Spirituality, Reality by Gloria Anzaldua
• Medical Apartheid: The Dark History of Medical Experimentation on Black Americans from Colonial Times to the Present by Harriet A. Washington
• Medical Bondage: Race, Gender, and the Origins of American Gynecology by Deirdre Cooper Owens
• My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem, LCSW
• Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome: America’s Legacy of Enduring Injury and Healing by Joy a Degruy
• Prisoners Without Trial: Japanese Americans in World War II by Roger Daniels
• Racial Fault Lines: The Historical Origins of White Supremacy in California by Tomas Almaguer
• Read This to Get Smarter: about Race, Class, Gender, Disability & More by Blair Imani
• Reawakening Our Ancestors’ Lines: Revitalizing Inuit Traditional Tattooing by Angela Hovak Johnson
• Reclaiming Our Space: How Black Feminists Are Changing the World from the Tweets to the Streets by Feminista Jones
• So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo
• Stamped from the Beginning: The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America by Ibram X. Kendi
• The American Indian Mind in a Linear World: American Indian Studies and Traditional Knowledge by Donald Fixico
• The Good Immigrant: 26 Writers Reflect on America, edited by Nikesh Shukla & Chimene Suleyman
• The Invention of the White Race, Volume 1: Racial Oppression and Social Control by Theodore W. Allen
• The Invention of the White Race, Volume 2: The Origin of Racial Oppression in Anglo-America by Theodore W. Allen
• The Long Walk: The Forced Navajo Exile by Jennifer Denetdale
• The Master's Tools Will Never Dismantle The Master’s House by Audre Lorde
• The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander
• The Oxford Handbook of Asian American History, edited by David K. Yoo and Eiichiro Azuma
• The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down: A Hmong Child, Her American Doctors, and the Collision of Two Cultures by Anne Fadiman
• This Book Is Anti-Racist: 20 lessons on how to wake up, take action, and do the work by Tiffany Jewell
• Voices from the Ancestors: Xicanx and Latinx Spiritual Expressions and Healing Practices by Lara Medina and Martha R. Gonzales
• Whiter: Asian American Women on Skin Color and Colorism, edited by Nikki Khanna
• Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race by Reni Eddo-Lodge
• Yakama Rising: Indigenous Cultural Revitalization, Activism, and Healing by Michelle M. Jacob
• Your Silence Will Not Protect You by Audre Lorde

• A Framework for Understanding Poverty by Ruby K. Payne
• Read This to Get Smarter: about Race, Class, Gender, Disability & More by Blair Imani
• The Emptiness of Our Hands: 47 Days on the Streets by Phyllis Cole-Dai

• Embody: Learning to Love Your Unique Body (and quiet that critical voice!) by Connie Sobczak
• Fat, Pretty, and Soon to be Old: A Makeover for Self and Society by Kimberly Dark
• The Body Is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor
• The Other F Word: A Celebration of the Fat & Fierce by Angie Manfredi

• Couples, Gender and Power: Creating Change in Intimate Relationships, edited by Carmen Knudson-Martin and Anne Rankin Mahoney
• Islands of Decolonial Love by Leanne Simpson
• Love's Promises: How Formal and Informal Contracts Shape All Kinds of Families by Martha M. Ertman
• Rock the Boat: How to Use Conflict to Heal and Deepen Your Relationship by Resmaa Menakem, LCSW
• The Attachment Theory Workbook: Powerful Tools to Promote Understanding, Increase Stability, and Build Lasting Relationships by Annie Chen LMFT
• The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

• Building Open Relationships: Your hands on guide to swinging, polyamory, and beyond! by Dr. Liz Powell
• Dealing with Difficult Metamours by Page Turner
• It's Called "Polyamory": Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships by Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles
• Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy & secure in an open relationship by Kitty Chambless
• Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin A. Patterson
• Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel
• Opening Up by Tristan Taormino
• Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners by Deborah Anapol
• Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
• Rewriting the Rules: An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships by Meg-John Barker
• Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life by Amy Gahran
• The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy & Dossie Easton
• The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola
• The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival by Kathy Labriola
• The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families by Eli Sheff
• Use Your Words: Opening Language for Open Relationships by Stephanie K. Webb
• When Someone You Love Is Polyamorous: Understanding Poly People and Relationships by Eli Sheff

• 365 Days of Submission: A Journal of Submissive Self-Discovery | Journaling Prompts from Submissive Guide by Luna Carruthers
• Better Bondage for Every Body by Evie Vane
• Building the Team: Cooperative Power Dynamic Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera
• Conquer Me: Girl-to-Girl Wisdom About Fulfilling Your Submissive Desires by Kacie Cunningham
• Decoding Your Kink: Guide to Explore, Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires by Galen Fous
• Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by Gloria and William Brame and Jon Jacobs
• Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation by Princess Kali
• Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot! by Carol Queen
• Exploring BDSM: A Workbook for Couples (or More) Discovering Kink by Morgan Thorne
• Gratifying Domination and Submissive Contentment: A Guidance Manual by Mistress Scarlet
• How to be a Happy and Healthy Submissive by Kate Kinsey
• How To Train Your little: A DD/lg Guidebook Volumes 1, 2, and 3 by J E Earl and J L Lucky
• Leading and Supportive Love: The Truth about Dominant and Submissive Relationships by Chris M. Lyon
• Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams
• Kinktionary by Ignixia
• Master/slave Mastery: Updated handbook of concepts, approaches, and practices by Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
• Mastering Mind: Dominants with Mental Illness & Neurological Dysfunction and Broken Toys: Submissives with Mental Illness & Neurological Dysfunction ed. Del Tashlin and Raven Kaldera
• Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships, edited by Raven Caldera
• Partners in Power: Living in Kinky Relationships by Jack Rinella
• Playing on the Edge: Sadomasichism, Risk, and Intimacy by Staci Newmahr
• Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Navigating and Exploring the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities by Lee Harrington
• Ropes, Bondage, and Power: Power Exchange Books’ Resource Series by Lee Harrington
• Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond by Lee Harrington
• Sadomasochism and the BDSM Community in the United States by Stephen K. Stein
• Sadomasochism: Powerful Pleasures, edited by Peggy J. Kleinplatz and Charles Moser
• Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities by David M. Ortmann and Richard A. Sprott
• The BDSM Contract Book by Michelle Fegatofi
• The Heart of Dominance: a guide to practicing consensual dominance by Anton Fulmen
• The Loving Dominant by John Warren
• The Master’s Manual: A Handbook of Erotic Dominance by Jack Rinella
• The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori
• The Toybag Guide to Age Play by Lee Harrington
• The Toybag Guide to Basic Rope Bondage by Jay Wiseman
• The Toybag Guide to Canes and Caning by Janet Hardy
• The Toybag Guide to Clips and Clamps by Jack Rinella
• The Toybag Guide to Dungeon Emergencies and Supplies by Jay Wiseman
• The Toybag Guide to Erotic Knifeplay by Miranda Austin and Sam Atwood
• The Toybag Guide To Foot And Shoe Worship by Midori
• The Toybag Guide to High-Tech Toys by John Warren
• The Toybag Guide to Hot Wax and Temperature Play by Spectrum
• The Toybag Guide to Medical Play by Tempest
• The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo by Mollena Williams
• Thinking Kink: The Collision of BDSM, Feminism and Popular Culture by Catherine Scott
• Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships by Stella Harris
• Two Knotty Boys Showing You The Ropes: A Step-by-Step, Illustrated Guide for Tying Sensual and Decorative Rope Bondage by Two Knotty Boys
• Two Knotty Boys: Back on the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys
• When Someone You Love is Kinky by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt

• A Practical Guide to Sex: Finally, Helpful Sex Advice! by Dr Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock
• Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski PhD
• Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life by Elle Chase
• Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon
• Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
• Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex by Joan Price
• Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good by adrienne maree brown
• Rewriting the Rules: An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships by Meg-John Barker
• The Come as You Are Workbook: A practical guide to the science of sex by Emily Nagoski PhD

• Challenging Perspectives on Street-Based Sex Work by Katie Hail-Jares, Corey S. Shdaimah, and Chrysanthi S. Leon
• Coming Out Like a Porn Star Essays on Pornography, Protection, and Privacy, edited by Jiz Lee
• Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work by Melissa Gira Grant
• Revolting Prostitutes: The Fight for Sex Workers’ Rights by Molly Smith, and Juno Mac
• Thriving in Sex Work: Heartfelt Advice for Staying Sane in the Sex Industry by Lola Davina

• Becoming Safely Embodied: A Guide to Organize Your Mind, Body and Heart to Feel Secure in the World by Deirdre Fay
• Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship by Laurence Heller Phd, Aline Lapierre Psyd
• Healing Sex: A mind-body approach to healing sexual trauma by Staci Haines
• Restorative Yoga for Ethnic and Race-Based Stress and Trauma by Gail Parker
• The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole by Arielle Schwartz, Ph.D.
• The Post-Traumatic Growth Guidebook: Practical Mind-Body Tools to Heal Trauma, Foster Resilience and Awaken Your Potential by Arielle Schwartz, Ph.D.

• Family and Friends’ Guide to Domestic Violence by Elaine Weissman
• He’s Just No Good for You: A Guide to Getting Out of a Destructive Relationship by Beth Wilson with Mo Therese Hannah
• Recover and Rebuild Domestic Violence Workbook: Moving On from Partner Abuse by Stacie Freudenberg, PsyD
• The Batterer as Parent: Addressing the Impact of Domestic Violence on Family Dynamics by Lundy Bancroft and Jay G. Silverman
• The Emotional Abuse Recovery Workbook: Breaking the Cycle of Psychological Violence by Theresa Comito, LMFT
• The Gaslighting Recovery Workbook: Healing From Emotional Abuse by Amy Marlow-MaCoy LPC
• When Love Goes Wrong: What to Do When You Can’t Do Anything Right by Ann Jones and Susan Schechter
• Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

• Beyond Survival: Strategies and Stories from the Transformative Justice Movement, edited by Ejeris Dixon & Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha
• Care Work: Dreaming Disability Justice by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha
• Turn This World Inside Out: The Emergence of Nurturance Culture by Nora Samaran

These are just books I enjoyed - you might, too! There's a mix of fiction and non-fiction here.

• 24 Hour Mindfulness: How to be Calmer and Kinder in the Midst of It All by Rohan Gunatillake
• Alif The Unseen by Wilson G. Willow
• All Quiet on the Western Front by Erich Maria Remarque
• Cirque Du Freak: A Living Nightmare by Darren Shan (book 1 of 12)
• Death's Acre: Inside the Legendary Forensic Lab the Body Farm Where the Dead Do Tell Tales by William M. Bass
• Free of Charge: Giving and Forgiving in a Culture Stripped of Grace by Miroslav Volf
• Ghost Hunters: William James and the Search for Scientific Proof of Life After Death by Deborah Blum
• Horror in the Heartland: Strange and Gothic Tales from the Midwest by Keven McQueen
• Massacre at Mountain Meadows: An American Tragedy by Ronald W. Walker, Richard E. Turley, and Glen M. Leonard
• Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankel
• Murder in Burnt Orange: a Hilda Johansson Mystery by Jeanne M. Dams
• Siddartha by Hermann Hesse
• Six of Crows by Leigh Bardugo
• Sophie's World: A Novel About the History of Philosophy by Jostein Gaarder
• The Colony: The Harrowing True Story of the Exiles of Molokai by John Tayman
• The End of Memory: Remembering Rightly in a Violent World by Miroslav Volf
• The Legend of Sleepy Hollow by Washington Irving
• The Monster of Florence by Douglas J. Preston
• The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times by Pema Chödrön
• The Poisoner's Handbook: Murder and the Birth of Forensic Medicine in Jazz Age New York by Deborah Blum
• The President is a Sick Man: Wherein the Supposedly Virtuous Grover Cleveland Survives a Secret Surgery At Sea and Vilifies the Courageous Newspaperman Who Dared Expose the Truth by Matthew Algeo
• The Reluctant Fundamentalist by Mohsin Hamid
• The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett
• The Tao of Pooh & The Te of Piglet by Benjamin Hoff
• The Thomas Lourds Books by Charles Brokaw
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  • The Temple Mount Code
  • The Oracle Code