Take Action Now on Section 1557 of the ACA

I’m passing this along from NCIL (which I know has been problematic as of late) because this is incredibly important to every community I work with. Please consider reaching out and speaking up.

On June 14, 2019, the Trump Administration published a proposed regulation that would roll back the nondiscrimination protections under Section 1557 of the Affordable Care Act (ACA). Section 1557 is the provision of the ACA that prohibits discrimination in healthcare programs and activities on the basis of race, color, national origin, sex, age, or disability. The Administration’s proposal is extremely dangerous and discriminatory, and we need to do everything we can to stop this proposal from being finalized!

Specifically, the proposal would limit the number of health programs subject to Section 1557, and it would narrow the scope of the protections under Section 1557 in the following ways:

• Gender identity and sex stereotyping would be completely eliminated from the definition of sex discrimination, the definition of gender identity would be eliminated, and all references to sexual orientation in HHS regulations would be erased. This could allow healthcare providers to deny transgender people gender-affirming care, and would result in queer and trans people being significantly less likely to get quality healthcare and more likely to face discrimination, abuse, or refusals of care.

• Requirements for notices and taglines that let people with Limited English Proficiency (LEP) know about language access services, including services for disabled people, would no longer be required.

• Healthcare providers would be able to refuse care and justify it under Title IX’s religious exemption. This would allow healthcare providers to discriminate against or deny abortions, reproductive health services, or other health services that a provider says violates their religious beliefs.

• The ban on insurance plan discrimination on the basis of disability, age, and other factors would be removed, which would disproportionately impact people with disabilities and chronic illnesses. The removal of protections around benefit design would disproportionately impact people with HIV/AIDS and other disabilities and chronic illnesses that may be treated or managed with more expensive medications or other treatments.

• The requirement for healthcare providers to share notices that inform people of their nondiscrimination policy, their rights, how to file complaints if they are discriminated against, and other information would be completely eliminated.

All the above proposed changes will impact disabled people. In addition, the Administration is specifically seeking comments on questions related to disability access.

Specifically, they have asked for feedback regarding:

• Effective Communication: Whether to remove the requirement for covered providers with less than 15 employees to provide auxiliary aids and services.

• Accessibility Standards: Whether to continue to apply the 2010 ADA Standards to all entities under Section 1557, specifically in regard to benefits to disabled people versus burdens on private entities (see 45 CFR 92.103).

• Reasonable Modifications: Whether to keep current language regarding accommodations that is derived from Title II of the ADA, or to substitute with language conforming to Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act. Current language (based on the ADA) states that covered entities must make reasonable modifications to policies, practices, or procedures when necessary to avoid discrimination on the basis of disability, except if the modification would fundamentally alter the nature of the health program or activity. Proposed new language (based on the Rehabilitation Act) states that covered entities shall make reasonable accommodation to the known physical or mental limitations of an otherwise qualified individual with a disability. In this section, they also seek comment on whether to include an exemption for “undue hardship” (see 45 CFR 92.105).

It is clear that if this attempted rollback is finalized, disabled people and many others will be significantly less likely to receive quality healthcare or to file grievances when discriminated against. Disabled people would also not be provided with the resources they need to know about those things in the first place.

Take Action!

The comment period closes on August 13, 2019 at 11:59 Eastern, so please submit comments as soon as possible! Your comments should explain why you oppose this proposed change, and you should address as many of the specific proposed changes and questions as possible. This is a cruel attack on people who already experience discrimination in healthcare settings, and this proposal will only make things worse. We must ensure the Administration hears from as many of us as possible!

Comments can be submitted online through the Federal eRulemaking Portal (preferred) or by mail.

• Federal eRulemaking Portal: You may submit electronic comments at regulations.gov/comment?D=HHS-OCR-2019-0007-0001 or by going to regulations.gov and searching for the Docket ID number HHS-OCR-2019-0007. Click on “Comment Now” and you can type your comments into the comment box or upload a document.

• Regular, Express, or Overnight Mail: Your comments must be postmarked by the comment submission deadline (August 13, 2019). You may mail comments to U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Office for Civil Rights / Attention: Section 1557 NPRM, RIN 0945-AA11 / Hubert H. Humphrey Building, Room 509F / 200 Independence Avenue SW / Washington, DC 20201.

Awareness Calendar for July

July is the awareness month for:

  • Cleft & Craniofacial issues
  • Cord Blood (esp. banking)
  • Eye Injury Prevention
  • Hemochromatosis Screening And Awareness Month
  • International Group B Strep Throat
  • Juvenile Arthritis
  • Minority Mental Health
  • Tickling!
  • UV Safety

Don’t forget these important awareness days, too:

  • Donate Life (8-21)
  • Heterochromia Day (12)
  • Social Media Giving Day (15)
  • Stress Down Day (24)
  • National African American Hepatitis C Action Day (25)
  • World Hepatitis Day (28)
  • World Day against Trafficking in Persons (30)
  • National Cheesecake Day (30)
  • Orgasm Day (31)

Go forth and be awesome!

Review: Fun Factory Volta

It’s been a hot minute since I finished a review. Let’s dive into the Volta from Fun Factory.

photo of the volta from fun factory

The Volta features an almost snake tongue-like appearance, making it easy to focus on the clitoris – or anywhere else for that matter. Mine as pictured above is a reddish color and set against a teal background.

As for details, Fun Factory has us covered:

With the way the Volta is set up, the vibrations run through the tips of the toy making it perfect for clit stimulation… That said, it’s also great for hitting other erogenous zones for people of any gender.

The loop on the end makes it easy to hold, and the buttons being there makes it a much more accessible toy than some of the others we’ve looked at.

There are six speeds and six vibration patterns, too, allowing for a high level of exploration.

Feelings and Verdict

I’ve tested this toy under a few different circumstances. It’s a relatively enjoyable one, and there are definitely layers of fun to be had.

I tend to like to orgasm a little more quickly than this toy makes it happen. It’s perfect for teasing, though!

At $139.99, it’s a little high-priced in my opinion. I enjoyed it as a toy and as an enhancement to other sexual activity. That said, it’s not the most intensely vibrating toy I have. If deep and hard vibrations are your thing, this might be one to pass on.

On the other hand, if you enjoy being teased or teasing – or lighter stimulation? The Volta is a can’t-miss addition to your toy box.

A Relationship Update

In the last few weeks, everything in my life got put on hold. I owe everyone an explanation.

In 2007, I met my husband. We were engaged in 2012, and then we got married in 2014. Within a few years, I discovered my queerness and gender fluidity. If I’m honest, I thought that once we got through that period, we would be golden.

I was wrong.

T and I are uh… not quite getting a divorce, but that’s for now. It’ll be an inevitability as we’re moving to being friends.

I have a lot of love for him. But I have realized that I’m not *in* love with him… He’s realized the same with me, too.

We’re still living together, but will reevaluate when our lease is up early next year – or sooner if we need to.

As sad as I am about it, part of it is him struggling with my queerness and gender. I would rather feel seen in full than in part, but it is what it is.

We’ve been polyamorous for a little bit, but he only recently began dating. For those of you who don’t know what that means, it means I’ve been on dates and relatively recently more seriously dating. Polyamory is about many loves, and I’m happy to answer more questions about that. I haven’t been as out about it to avoid awkwardness with family, but have reached a point where I’m past that.

This weekend was a weekend away and I think we needed that space to process things. I went to my first Pride (!) this weekend with one of my partners. It was awesome, and they really helped me process a lot of things.

I also had a lot of great sex which is always helpful.

My hope is that, within a few weeks, things will find a new stride that brings back the podcast and the chat. Naturally, I will try to keep people in the loop.

I’m really grateful that I have so many wonderful people in my life like them. I appreciate each and every one of you.

Awareness Calendar for June

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June is here, and summer is too! Hooray!

Here is what this month is about:

  • Adult Sex-Ed
  • African-American Music Appreciation
  • Alzheimer’s and Brain
  • Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome
  • Aphasia
  • Cancer from the Sun
  • Caribbean-American Heritage
  • Cataract
  • Child Vision
  • Childhood Cancer
  • Congenital Cytomegalovirus
  • Hernia
  • Hunger
  • Infertility (world)
  • LGBTQIA+ Pride
  • Men’s Health
  • Migraine & Headache
  • Myasthenia Gravis
  • PTSD
  • Safety
  • Scleroderma
  • Scoliosis
  • Vision Research

Specific days/weeks:

  • World Hypoparathyroidism Awareness Day (1)
  • National Cancer Survivors Day (2)
  • Community Health Improvement Week (2-8)
  • National Headache Awareness Week (4-10)
  • HIV Long-Term Survivors Day (5)
  • Tourettes Awareness Day (7)
  • Caribbean-American HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (8)
  • Cervical Screening Awareness Week (10-16)
  • Men’s Health Week (10-16)
  • World Blood Donor Day (14)
  • Autistic Pride Day (18)
  • World Sickle Cell Day (19)
  • Helen Keller Deaf-Blind Awareness Week (23-29)
  • National HIV Testing Day (27)
  • PTSD Awareness Day (27)

Strong Can Go Wrong, Especially in Chronic Illness

I often feel like a walking oxymoron. I teach people about communication, yet don’t always do a great job communicating effectively. Even though I talk about improving relationships, I tend to avoid working on my own. Perhaps one of the biggest issues, though, is that despite living in chronic pain for the vast majority of my life, I struggle to tell people about my pain.

Growing up in an abusive home, I quickly learned that I wasn’t expected to be my own person. Instead, I was expected to provide comfort and solace for others. That has affected every single day of my life thus far and, despite all the work I’ve done to grow, will probably be a factor until the day I die. It’s caused fights, even with how much I know I can and should share.

It isn’t just that I struggle to show my weak points to others… although, it’s naturally hard to be that vulnerable with others. For me, though, it runs into the conditioning I grew up with, and that’s a hard series of indoctrinations that’s not easy to move past.

Even though I’ve made a name for myself by sharing things with random strangers on the internet – hi! – I still would rather listen to others than talk. Hell, I literally work for an organization where I problem-solve for fellow disabled and chronically ill people and help them feel heard.

At home, I listen to every noise our guinea pigs make. We completely get each other, and I know when they’re asking for snacks. When they get frustrated or annoyed, I can tell and change things up accordingly.

My husband is… another story.

A decade ago, we sat in his car listening to music. He told me how he wanted to be here for me – to share in the burden of my illnesses. For such a long time, I was used to fighting things alone and that was taking its toll on our relationship.

The problem is that we’re both listeners. When we hurt, we both turn inward and crave isolation over interacting with others. I tend to do this with physical pain or when I’m dealing with a Post-Traumatic Stress episode. I may not always be in the best headspace, but it’s usually something that passes quickly.

TJ’s major depression doesn’t operate like that.

In recent years, he’s been able to start sharing more about what he’s facing. Often, though, I have to pull information out like dentists pull teeth. Each nugget of information sits there waiting for these invisible verbal pliers that, combined with reassuring snuggles, finally get the job done.

Every time his depression gets worse, so does my physical pain. Naturally, I haven’t shared that with him because it would be easy to use that as an excuse to avoid sharing… well, it could be if TJ was married to someone who couldn’t read him well.

When TJ shares things with me freely and openly, it changes the dynamics of our relationship. We stop being two people trying to protect each other by denying what we’re each facing. Instead, like adults, we accept each other’s illnesses and try to help where we can.

If that’s not the best reason to be more forthcoming with our own personal struggles, I don’t know what is.

Make sure to check out Lene’s piece, When Strong Gets In The Way. If you missed our Facebook Live, you can always watch it below:

Awareness Calendar for May

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Sorry this is late this month! I was trying to work way too many jobs. One project is done and I’m back to being human.

Month:

  • ALS
  • Arthritis
  • Asthma and Allergy
  • Better Hearing and Speech
  • Better Sleep
  • Bladder Cancer
  • Brain Cancer
  • Celiac Disease
  • Clean Air
  • CRPS
  • Cystic Fibrosis
  • Digestive Diseases
  • Ehlers-Danlos (EDS)
  • Food Allergy
  • Foster Care
  • Healthy Vision
  • Hepatitis
  • High Blood Pressure
  • Huntington’s Disease
  • Jewish American Heritage
  • Lyme Disease
  • Lupus
  • Masturbation
  • Melanoma
  • Mental Health
  • Myositis
  • Neurofibromatosis
  • Osteoporosis
  • Pet
  • Skin Cancer
  • Stroke
  • Teenage Pregnancy Prevention
  • Trauma

Day/week:

  • Asthma (1)
  • Foster Care (2)
  • World Hand Hygeine Day (5)
  • Brain Tumor Action Week (5-11)
  • Stuttering (5-11)
  • Melanoma Monday (6)
  • Barrier Awareness (7)
  • Infertility Survival (7)
  • National Children’s Mental Health Awareness Day (9)
  • World Lupus Day (10)
  • National Women’s Health Week (12-18)
  • National Alcohol- and Other Drug-Related Birth Defects Awareness Week (12-18)
  • Food Allergy Awareness Week (12-18)
  • Fibromyalgia Awareness Day (12)
  • ME/CFS Awareness Day (12)
  • Neuropathy Awareness Week (second full week)
  • Honor LGBT Elders (16)
  • Hypertension (17)
  • International Day Against Homomisia, Transmisia, and Bimisia (17)
  • HIV Vaccine Awareness Day (18)
  • National Asian and Pacific Islander HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (19)
  • Hepatitis Testing Day (19)
  • World Autoimmune Arthritis Day (20)
  • Pansexual & Panromantic Awareness (24)
  • Missing Children’s Day (25)
  • Heat Awareness (26)
  • Digestive Health (29)
  • MS (31)

Why BDSM could allow anyone disabled to enjoy sex

Have you ever considered BDSM – bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism? For some people, it’s not something they want to even entertain the idea of. But, practices inspired by it could help to liberate anyone disabled and unable to enjoy sex in a conventional way. Francesca from inclusive sex aid website, The Pleasure Garden, explains all.

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